Change is good

Over the past few months my life has went through so many amazing changes. I finally got the job that I wanted to get since last year. I really enjoy the place I work; I enjoy the people and the atmosphere. I have gotten so much closer to the path that I was laid out for me. It’s is a great feeling to know that I am independent; I’m so much closer to getting my car. I feel like my life is better than it has ever been before. I finally gotten rid of all my baggage from the past, which is an amazing no it’s beyond amazing to finally feel like you are free from the tyranny of people. I’m going to graduate from college in December thank you God, because otherwise I would have still been focusing on the things that would possibly destroy my life. My career path is right on the track that it needs to be on, its amazing to know that I will have a great job when I graduate doing something that I really want to do. You can never be fully happy at your job unless its something that you want to do, and this is where I want to be. There is nothing holding me back from the satisfaction of reaching my goals unless its myself, and that is definitely not going to happen. At 22 I finally feel more at peace with my life, my family, my friends, everything. I know that I can do anything that I put my mind to and that’s exactly what I plan on doing. My heart is finally free to follow my dreams, I don’t have somebody always whispering in my ear telling me that I don’t need to this, that I need to focus on them, that I shouldn’t work at the place that I want to work at. Nobody is going to stop my dream it will become a reality as long as I hold fast to it. Have you ever felt like the people who are supposed to love you and care about you are the main ones that try to bring you down. That’s why I had to push certain people out of my life. I can’t have anybody who is going to put me down and try to manipulate my life to make it what they want it to be. There are certain people who will always try to control you, or make you be something that your not. I will not be that person at all for anyone. If you can’t accept me for the person I am, then clearly you don’t need me in your life. I will never change the person I am for anyone. If anyone ever has feelings for me then you better know this now, you need to accept me flaws and all. I am attempting to be on my grown woman status so that means I’m not into playing games. I not into being your side girl, I will not be your sex buddy. I don’t want to be with someone who is going to play games or feel that they can control me, because if they think that they have the wrong person. I absolutely despise the mind games that some people feel the need to play, just tell me the truth that’s all I ask. I will be Kameko no matter what. So if you are looking to have me in your life whether in a platonic or romantic then you need to understand me and know that this is what you get. Nothing is promised to anyone in this life, so don’t live your life for anyone other than yourself. Nowadays I just feel that I am more secure in my life and the way I want to live it. Really I am secure in me altogether; I don’t second guess myself anymore. I am to the point where I know what I deserve and what I want in my life. Don’t think I’m conceited, or anti social I’m just to the point now where I can tell if I want you in my life in anyway form or fashion. There will be a lot of people who will get the boot after this is all over because they were just here for that season not the lifetime. Either they helped me to see the wrongs in my life or I helped them, so it wasn’t a waste it was a blessing that we all could help each other. I believe that everything happens for a reason, for every action there is a consequence whether good or bad. So if I suddenly have fallen from your life then know that our destiny was completed, and if I just coming into yours know its only beginning. I am me and that’s all I can ever be.

My Resoulutions…Yea its late

 

     It seems that no matter how much good you do in this world bad things happen to you. I have for the past few months let one of my friends stay with me. I went out my way to make sure they felt safe and secure. It was a challenge to say the least but I felt that I was doing the right thing by doing all this, but yet in the end what happened I was made to look like the bad guy when all I did was treat some one better than most friends would have ever treated someone like them. It seems like now people tend to drift in and out of my life. Some people feel that they can drag me along and then just use me at there own discretion. The way I feel about life now is totally different than what I felt before. I look back at 2008 and think about all the things that happened to me. I met some wonderful people, some who I formed relationships with others where just passerby. Out of all the people I met though I can say one of them made me stronger than I was before. With all there constant picking, teasing, and how much they confused me all the time. I can honestly say the experience was well worth it. I remember so many times looking back asking people why somebody would treat me like this, and no matter what they did I never really seemed to mind. I grew a lot out of that relationship or whatever it was. I was still at the point in my life where I was trying to be this obedient person who never got in trouble, I would sit there and take crap from people and not say nothing and my excuse was that I was trying to be polite I was trying to be respectful…but sometimes you have to break out. Those few months where it was all about you really taught me a lot about the person I wanted to be. Its funny how so many people see so many different sides to me. My next door neighbors always talking about how “hood” I am which clearly I am far from that. I was born and raised in Maple Hill the country, I don’t care how many times people holler that maple hill is so hard, but truth is Maple Hill is a nice country town that’s great to raise kids in. People choose to be corrupted by their surroundings but I didn’t. I made the most out of a boring environment. I got off subject but any they see me like that because around them they always see the big bold side of my personality. They see the version that is never taking nobodies’ crap, they see the one who is always ready to jump in and help my best friend when he is in trouble, they see the version that is not scared to say anything to anybody. At other places most people see the quiet version of me. They see the girl who only says hello, and goodbye. I’m not saying that I don’t talk to anyone at my but I pick and choose. I starting to warm up to more people and actually hold conversations with more than the select few that I already called associates. You can see me walking down the hall and have so many different ideas about the person that I really am. I know most peoples first thoughts about me is that I’m stuck up. They usually tell me that because I never talked to people. I was always focused on what I was doing and nothing else. Which is far from the truth, I’m not stuck up. I am a reserved person, who chooses when to let my presence be known. Since this new year started I have just felt the need to live more, not just focusing on my friends and families needs but my own. I know people are always saying that they are just going to be about themselves. But the thing is that I don’t want to be about myself I just need to find the balance in being the best Kameko and being a better person towards the ones I care about. In this transition to making myself a better person there are something’s that I want to see happen.

 

1. I’m no longer going to entertain men that don’t know what they want or need in a woman. I have had so many men approach me and try to talk to me when they don’t have there life together. They don’t know if they want someone from their past back, they can seem to decide if they want to be a playboy all there life…if you pushing 30 its time to settle down and stop sleeping with everything you meet. P.S don’t talk to me if you got a ring on that finger!!! I waiting on MR RIGHT TO FIND ME, NOT MR. RIGHT NOW no matter how good the things you can do are. Just because its good don’t mean its good for you!!!!!

2. Stop entertaining men who think that they are prettier than me. Yes you are an attractive man, ok ok you sexy but please stop looking at pictures of yourself all the time. Stop taking longer than me to get ready to go out. Stop dumping the entire bottle of cologne on your body before leaving your house. I understand you need, no live off attention but everybody doesn’t want you.

3. Stop hanging around people who use others for everything. I know everyone uses everyone else for something but if the only time you ever call somebody is to ask them favor then your who I’m talking to. If every text starts with hey…can you? Then you are who I am talking to.

4. Stop dealing with people who live in the past…yes I know bad things happened to you but you don’t need to let the entire world feel guilty because of something that we couldn’t help. Stop trying to make everyone feel pity on you that’s lame.

5. Stop living in the past with relationships…I can say that I am no longer suffering from this. I looked at my past relationships and know that they won’t work. Sometimes you have to look at the hurt that the other person caused you. Do you really want to reopen those wounds. You only setting yourself for more heartache. I personally don’t want to see my friends hurt by anyone they once had feelings for. If you constantly use other excuses to try to make a reason to be somebody then its not right. I see so many people who end up having kids with these people they keep running back to, think about it your not just hurting yourself now but now you have a kid who is going to grow up feeling all that tension, and heartache from parents who should have stayed apart

6. Stop dealing with clingy people…if you don’t know by now then I’m letting you know now I HATE to feel smothered by people. Give me space, let me breathe. I hate when people throw themselves on you. Honestly I don’t want to hang out everyday, I don’t want to talk everyday, I like being alone sometimes.

7. Stop expecting me to be able to do everything you want me to do…i.e. I have a life too.

8. You know what I like to do in my spare time read, write, draw, go on ride alongs(don‘t judge me damnit…I like them b/c I‘m actually learning stuff), go see my family. I like to go out sometimes but clubs just are not me most of the time, and I love to cook when I have food lol. So stop asking me what I like to do, stop judging me because I actually enjoy being at work, yes I like, no love doing ride alongs. You know why?? If I’m trying to do this job then I would like to get a picture of what I’m going to be doing. Yes I know that every time is not going to be exciting but so what when I’m on the streets I can’t call out just because nobody is doing crap that night. Dang people stop thinking just because I’m riding with certain people means something. You know what it means, I’m comfortable with those people and the things they teach me. I’m not trying to sleep with these people. Get off your high horse people. There are other more important things to talk about than my life.

9. I want to get healthy…I know we as a black people appreciate some extra meat on them bones, but do you want to risk high blood pressure, diabetes, cholesterol, etc. Get better people you only have one life to live, don’t waste it checking in and out of hospitals, riding in ambulances (no matter how attractive the EMS workers are lol) if you feel something wrong then go get checked out don’t wait till its to late.

10. MAKE KAMEKO HAPPY!!!!!! No matter what that entails I’m going to be happy. No matter how much heartache I go through my life will remain relevant and it will stand for something. Change is good and I claim my life to be a great one, one full of love, full of joy, full of family, full of the things that make me feel better. I want a better spiritual life, I know nobody is perfect, but I’m going to get my life as close as I can to my own personal idea of perfection. More to come later this week….

Things I like about MEN…

Some of the things I love about men….

     

  1. A mans smile what can I say no matter what I’m feeling like sometimes all a man has to do is flash a sexy smile and I’ll almost melt. Smiles are just so sexy to me, sometimes and I stress sometimes they can make even the ugliest man look sexy. Then when they get that smirk where they looking at you like they have some real sneaky stuff on there mind ohh wee.
  2. When you take off that shirt and I see your toned back….that right there is sexy. Backs in general are sexy, especially when you stretch and start moving around and you can see the muscles manipulating and you can see the sweat glistening off their bodies. Strong backs, light ones, dark ones, muscle bond ones, even the skinny ones (and sometimes they are the best). Back are sexy
  3. The thing I love is the kiss. The kiss can make or break a man for me. I think my lips are a nice size and are perfectly made to fit unto the lips of others lol. I love that tingle that runs through your body when you kiss certain people. I love the way my heartbeat speeds up at the thought of having a passionate kiss with a person who I like. Man I love the unexpected kisses. Some people really can kiss, and some only can kiss well at other times. I enjoy the way his lips will fit into mine, the way you lightly kiss my neck. I love the feeling of our bodies pressed against each other as we come in close to lock up. I love the way I feel you breathing faster in anticipation of the moment our lips touch. I love that slight pause right before you kiss someone. If you can’t kiss then we can’t date…real talk. I thought back on some of the best kisses of my life…and those thing were amazing. When you get that tingle down your spine you know you did something right.
  4. You know another thing that gets me…when I see a man and I get up close to him. And you take in the aroma that permeates from him OMG.  A man that smells good is a great thing. I remember this one man I talked to before he always wore this one cologne…I don’t want to say what b/c he is the only dude that I know that wears that. I would walk through the halls and know that he had been through; I think that his scent made me like him more than I normally would. Man I loved the way he smelled. I would be walking in the mall or somewhere and as soon as I caught a whiff of that I always thought of him. Smell is one of the things that can bring so many memories. You know another thing is that fresh out the shower smell, the smell of a freshly soaped up body all moisturized up….is overwhelming.
  5. Education. Brains=Sexy in my book.
  6. Confidence is a thing many people can fake but only a few can pull off. I like a man who knows that he can do what ever he wants if he puts his mind to it. A man that is confident in his self to know how to make me feel like a queen. When you’re confident in your self that right there is remarkable to me. I love the feeling of being on the side of a strong secure determined man.
  7. Rainbows….you know what I love about men is that they come in so many shades and textures. I think of myself as an equal opportunity dater. I feel the need to embrace ALL RACES, and nationalities. I date outside the box because you can learn so much from just dating people who are different than you. It just seems that people around *cough cough THE SOUTH cough cough* don’t seem to fully embrace dating outside your race entirely.
  8. Motivation. A motivated man is extremely appealing in my eyes. It shows me your not lazy, you striving for the things that you want done or want to do in your life.
  9. I love a man who can be a man. Every woman I know is all about being independent and more power to that but sometimes; I like to come home to a man who is in control. We can both play the role sometimes, but it’s just something about a man telling you what’s going to happen. I love men who can make you feel secure and know when to take charge.